7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge
Have you ever heard the saying, “You get more bees with honey than with vinegar?” I think the original saying was “flies”, but who wants to catch flies? Anyway, the saying is a tip in reference to how we should communicate with people. It basically means you get better results if you are sweet, instead of being “sour” and offensive, like vinegar. Coming from my recent bout with burnout, I have probably been sour more often than not. Therefore, I decided to create a 7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge for myself, and document the results each day. I hope you’ll follow along.
As I thought about my recent interactions with my family, I realized my standard mode of operation probably leans more toward the vinegary side. I’m not a mean or hateful person by nature. But I guess I just picked up some bad habits somewhere along the way without even being aware of it.
So I sat down, looked deep, and wrote down a list of areas that I know I need to seriously work on. Not only for myself, but those I care about.
I think we all could benefit from these small, but important shifts in the way we interact with our loved ones, don’t you?
Forgiving is not something that comes easy, but it is crucial to our relationships with our loved ones.
No one wants to be criticized, especially by someone they look up to or care about. Today is about learning how to pick the battles worth fighting and let the rest go.
This one goes hand-in-hand with Day 2, but more along the lines of retraining a negative mind. Focusing on the positive helps minimize the negative so that things don’t seem so hopeless or unattainable. Many of us have struggled most of our lives with negative self talk and pessimism, but today will be about intentionally focusing on the positives, no matter how few you may think you have…
Many of us are single parents these days, but even if you aren’t, you know how the daily grind and laundry list of to-dos can take up all the time and space of every day if we let it. My fiance and I are both guilty of this, which is why I want to focus today on being present and intentional about acknowledging my family.
Many of us fail to recognize that the tones we ask for things or words we use can sound harsh or demanding to others. I hadn’t realized I was doing this until what I thought was a simple request turned into a heated discussion. Therefore, I want to focus on using a softer tone and better word choices…
When was the last time you did something really special for your significant other or child? I don’t mean just the daily little things like cooking dinner or helping with homework. I mean something that would REALLY meet a need they have. Day 6 is about turning our focus outward..
If you’re anything like me, as a mom, we tend to get the unfortunate responsibility of being the task manager and disciplinarian of the household. It’s especially true for us single moms whose co-parent has taken the role of “fun dad”. I’ve realized we don’t have to reprise this role 24/7. We do have permission (and we SHOULD) step into Fun Mom role once in awhile, so let’s go for it…..
The goal of this challenge is to shift your focus from ourselves and improve the way we communicate. We need to break the old patterns ingrained in our minds for whatever reason, and retrain our brain to think differently.
It will always be a conscious effort, but with time, it will hopefully become more and more automatic. By focusing on a few specific actions at a time, you’ll feel less overwhelmed and have a greater chance of success.
The 7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge is designed in such a way that each day builds upon the previous day. For example, on day 2, you will continue focusing on forgiveness, PLUS working on avoiding criticism, and so on.
Good luck, here we go! 🙂