7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge-Positive Mindset
Day 3-Positive Mindset
As cliche as it sounds, this is probably one of the most important things we need to practice. And it is also one of those things that will have the most immediate impact in our happiness, our loved ones’ happiness, and our perception of the world in general. I have tendency to be a bit of a Debbie Downer if things aren’t going perfectly. This bring us to Day 3 of the 7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge-Positive Mindset .
“I CAN’T THINK OF ANYTHING POSITIVE”
I think we all have had days when it was SUPER difficult to find anything good about the day, but if you dig waaaay deep, you can find even the smallest positive thought about the day. Here are some ideas:
Did you make it home safely?
Do you have a warm place to live?
Do you have family or friends?
Are you in fairly good health?
Do you have a job (even if you don’t love it right now)?
Did you get to see a nice sunrise/sunset today?
You get the idea. I’m sure you could answer YES to at least one or two of those questions. Yes, there are some days for me when I really have to reach for those basic blessings, but not having these basic blessings would change my entire life, and not for the better.
So remember that no matter how bad life seems today, there is always SOMETHING positive we can take away from it or some lesson we can learn.
What’s The Lesson?
While researching information on positive thinking, I was surprised to find out exactly how damaging negative thoughts can be. Negative thoughts are damaging not only to our relationships, but to our own mental and physical health.
According to apost on Psychology Today, ruminating can damage the neural structures that regulate emotions, memory, and feelings. Even when our stress and worry is not based on any real or current situation, the amygdala and the thalamus (which helps communicate sensory and motor signals) aren’t able to differentiate this “imagined” stress from the kind that actually needs to be listened to.
Repetitive negative thinking also causes our bodies to produce an over-abundance of cortisol. Long term exposure to this hormone with no release actually breaks down the hippocampus, which helps form new memories. Therefore, this makes it much more difficult to form new positive memories and thought patterns with cortisol constantly pumping through your body.
Another 2009 study of 100,000 women found that women who had a more cynical or pessimistic outlook were more likely to have heart disease. These women were also more likely to die earlier than the women with a positive outlook.
Scary, isn’t it?
How Did It Go Today?
The good news is that we can rewire our brains by focusing on the positives each day. I started doing this today….
When I woke up, I started out by thanking God for bringing such a patient, caring guy into my life. I thanked Him for keeping life stable as I work to improve my financial situation. I realize at any moment, anything can happen, but so far everything is ok. For that I am truly grateful! If you don’t believe in God, you can still practice gratitude to your higher power or the universe, or whatever you believe, just be grateful!
I did my absolute best to immediately shut down any negative or painful thought and replaced it with a positive one. I purposed NOT to complain, no matter how frustrating the situation. In fact, I made a daily intention to tell my fiance and my son a few things that I admired about them. I was surprised at the positive effect it had on not only their mood, but mine as well. It felt good to make them feel good.
Of course this is obvious, but when you let yourself get stuck in a negative state, you tend to think that your state of mind doesn’t have much of an effect on others-good or bad. But it most definitely does!
What positive thoughts or actions did you take today? What differences did you notice in how your felt? How did those around you reacted to it? I’d love to hear about it!
That’s about it for Day 3 of the 7 Day Shift Your Mindset Challenge-Positive Mindset.
I hope you’ll come back tomorrow for Day 4’s challenge….it’s all about being PRESENT. And we’ll be past the half-way point!
Remember to continue with the previous days’ habits, too!